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Parentune - Nutrition Corner is a focused section for you to get advice from Parentune Experts with respect to the right Nutrition for your child. Keeping in line with our endeavor to bring about a quality shift in Child Development, we have started this section called Nutrition Corner.

Wednesday 18 June 2014

Parentune.com: Speech and Drama Classes

SPEECH AND DRAMA CLASSES Age Group: 3 to 12 Event Date: 20-Jun-2014 Timings: 05:15 PM - 06:15 PM Address: G-1 Paradise Park, Anil Mehta Marg, Santacruz west, Off Tagore Road, Behind Sarla Nursing Home, Mumbai About the event: KidsVita is happy to invite all for an orientation of the Helen O Grady International speech and drama class at Fastrackids International Early childhood enrichment centre. Let the child explore the world of imagination, learn collaborative skills, get creative, develop language skills and most important gain confidence in the classes.

Parentune.com: Where Fathers need to pitch in

We all know that fathers love their children enormously but some do so from a safe distance. It is seen that on an average the mother does more work than the father, when it come to bringing up the child (cooking food, feeding the baby, washing his clothes, etc). Is there a line between how much a mother should look after her baby and how much the father should? How does a parent know when to expect help from the spouse? Here are a few suggestions and tips which may help parents in nurturing their child, together, without one person feeling stressed or overwhelmed.

1. Feeding: This is a task which most mothers would like fathers to be in charge of. Fathers can take the responsibility of feeding dinner (once they are back from work), and on holidays. This also helps toddlers and fussy eaters enjoy their meal as fathers may have a different approach (storytelling, playing games etc) to feeding them than mothers do. When it comes to bottle feeding at night, moms and dads can take turns to wake up and feed the baby. Parents can decide between themselves as to how many times a week will mom wake up and how many times it would be dad’s turn.

2. Keeping the child engaged: Let your child spend as much time with their father when he is around. But do not stress father’s about it—nagging them as soon as they are in from work, will not help. Instead, let them tell the child the bedtime story. Or let the father relax with his tea in the nursery or the playroom with the child in vicinity. Put on rhymes or music cds that both can enjoy together.

3. Bathing, dressing, changing diapers: Dads can help with bathing, dressing up the child for bedtime or when stepping out. Changing diapers for babies and toilet training in toddlers are also responsibilities many moms want shared. Caring for little children regularly helps make the father and child bond stronger. One great way is to hand over, naptime to fathers. Bathing, changing clothes, taking the child to the washroom, and even helping the child go off to sleep can be taken care of by the fathers.

4. Help out with household chores: Some fathers may help out in cooking, cleaning, or even help out with buying the groceries. This way mom has one less chore to worry about.

5. Taking your child for his/her routine check up: Fathers may take their child to the paediatricians for their routine checkups. This helps father understand his child’s health issues, can learn about the dietary needs if any, know what to expect in terms of the child’s physical and mental growth (each child grows at his/her own pace) and will be aware of any other concerns specific to his child.

6. Meeting with the teachers at school: Having fathers present during a meeting at school with the teachers will help him understand the level your child is at school and will help both parents have a realistic expectation from the child in terms of his/her performance at school. This way both parents can equally guide and provide moral support to a child when necessary.

A few handy tips for the hands-on mom.

1. Communicate to your husband on what you expect from him in terms of caring and nurturing for your child. Most full time moms feel stressed and overwhelmed by having to manage her child without much support from her better half. This makes little activities with children feel like another chore. So having an open conversation with your husband and letting him know of activities that you could do with some help will open up avenues to involve him in little (big for moms) ways!

2. Encourage your child to spend more time with daddy. Let them enjoy some alone time together without you having the need to go and check on them every few minutes. If they are having fun playing outdoors when it is time for dinner, then wait for them to return. Dinner can wait; let your child enjoy a few extra minutes of being with daddy.

3. Forget micro-managing: Over time mothers tend to develop a habit of micro managing every little task-even the ones daddy is in charge of! If your child is enjoying his/her bath with daddy by splashing water and making a mess in the bathroom, do not interfere and grumble about the mess. Let them enjoy the moment. Similarly if your child cries and you feel the urge to go and comfort him/her, try and refrain. Let your husband tackle the situation his way. This will only create more balance at home in terms of sharing responsibilities.

4. Offer suggestions in a respectful and a positive way. If you see your husband handling a situation in a way not very comfortable for your child, you may offer a suggestion and not criticize his way or command on what he should do. This will help keep peace between spouses and will not ruin the moment for the child.

5. Follow the same rules on parenting: Parents may agree on a few rules which their child should follow even in the absence of the other parent. For instance, if both agree that the child should not be allowed to watch cartoon at mealtimes, stick to that rule whether mom is around or not. If parents are not on the same page with regards to inculcating good habits and discipline, the child will grow up with mixed (good and not so good) values from both parents. This can create issues as the child grows. So understanding, agreeing and following some rules between the parents is crucial for the well being of the child.

Not all dads are hands-on dads. On the other hand there are moms who may not get enough time during the week to spend with her child. Making the time for your child, being involved in small activities in your child’s day, effective communication between parents are some of the ways to effectively share parental responsibilities and letting your child enjoy happy moments with both mom and dad.

Wednesday 11 June 2014

Parentune.com : MOM AND ME SUMMER WORKSHOP

MOM AND ME SUMMER WORKSHOP 2014 Age Group: 1.50 to 2.50 Date: 11-Jun-2014 to 30-Jul-2014 Timings: 04:00 PM - 05:00 PM Address: S - 49 Panchsheel park Near ING Bank, Delhi-110017 About the event: A specially designed, fun and colorful program of age 2 to 4 years! The program will focus on the needs of children of this age and will work on developing their sensory perceptions and coordination and will help them learn about colors, shapes, everyday objects and also their environment.

Wednesday 4 June 2014

Parentune.com : Bright Sparks Summer Camp in Mumbai

BRIGHT SPARKS SUMMER CAMP - WEEK I Age Group: 4 to 14 Date: 09-Jun-2014 to 13-Jun-2014 Timings: 10:00 AM – 1:15 PM Address: 11 & 12, Shah and Nahar Industrial Estate, Worli, Near Furniturewala, Off Dr E Moses Road, Mumbai-400018 About the event: This summer camp offers a multitude of exciting workshops and activities for children of all ages which help in developing their analytical skills, problem-solving and teamwork skills. Also children get to experience the magic of science and the thrill of story-telling.

Tuesday 3 June 2014

Parentune.com : Creative Writing Workshop

Creative Writing Workshop II Age Group: 7 to 14 Date: 02-Jun-2014 to 06-Jun-2014 Timings: 04:00 PM - 07:30 PM Address: G-1 Shalimar Apartments, A.K. Marg, Kemps Corner, Behind Shalimar Hotel, 400026 About the event: A summer workshop for kids of age 7 to 14 years for various activities with the aim of enhancing their writing, reading and creative skills which will lead to overall personality development

Parentune.com : Teaching our children the Value of Money

When my son was about 3.5 years old I distinctly remember a very interesting conversation we had and I must share it with you.

On most of our trips to the mall or market it was a punishment for us because he used to put his hand over a toy and we would buy it for him. We loved the smile and happiness that this unnecessary and expensive buy brought on your childs face but gradually we begin to realize that slowly it was burning a big hole in our pocket.

Gradually we even came to a stage where, my son actually could not choose a toy in the shop because he had most of them it was Funny! Or so we thought till the next time when we visited the mall my son said, “Mama I want this toy !” rather than just saying a blatant refusal I told him “it is too expensive and mama is not carrying enough money”.

My mother who was accompanying us (being a wonderful yet indulgent grandparent) was hurt by my statement and said, “this is not right and that he is too small to understand this”. Even before I could give her an explanation, my sunny boy tells me, “mama lets go to the ATM and get money; just put your card in and the money will start coming out”.

I was dumbfounded as he had accompanied me to the ATM only once before. When I answered back that there was no money in the ATM he said lets go to the bank. Everytime I remember this incident a smile comes across my face.

The moment of Truth!!

That night we as parents decided it was time to teach our child the value of money.We decided we would initiate the process of making him understand about “ Money” and we later found out that we were underestimating his ability to understand and comprehend matters regarding Money.

Important Life Lessons that may help in the process:

- Making the child understand that it takes a lot of hours of hard work to give them the comfortable life they lead.
- They must learn the value of money but at the same time not get attached to it. Money is like water it has to flow and flow it does.
- Prioritizing how the money should be spent goes a long way.
- Making the child understand the difference between a Need and a Want.
- It is more valued if you make them work for it.

The next day we made our son sit down and emphasised how there were so many needy kids that did not have a single toy then we further reinstated the same same fact by explaining to him that he could only buy one gift in a month and before that gift came in he would have to to donate any old toy of his to a needy child. At first he did not quite like the idea but over the years now he is on board with it.

Later to further facilitate his understanding we also gave him a piggy bank where he collected his savings ( which was mostly the change that his grandparents gave to him when they visited) and later bought what he wanted.

In the last two years he has learnt that he cannot waste money, infact if I am shopping in the mall he checks me by saying that I am wasting money ( Can you believe that ).

The children need to be explained in a comforting manner that they must take care of their belongings and they are responsible if something happens to them. They should be made aware that buying a thing is neither easy noe appropriate again and again. Asserting that all their toys must go to the appropriate place once they are done playing with them will instill in them a sense of responsibility for taking care of their belongings.

Another instance which further reinforces the point that I am trying to make is when a family friends of ours who have a teenager, lost a camera on a school trip probably because of carelessness. In order to teach him the value of money his parents told him to compensate for the camera that he had lost. Mind you, they belong to a very well off family but the child had to forgo his birthday party .When I heard this I felt a little bad but the child learnt the lesson of his life (though he still got the i-pod he wanted as a birthday Present).

A year ago my son really wanted a WI game so I told him to start saving money in his piggy bank. Everytime he would help us with a household chore we contributed to his piggy bank. We explained to him that he might have to save for the whole year since the game was expensive.Very patiently he collected the money but was very disappointed to see that inspite of saving all through the year he had not collected enough money and his birthday was fast approaching. We told him not to worry and pooled in the balance amount. I am proud to say that by then my son had understood what we wanted him to learn all along.

Another good place to teach children how to spend money well is the supermarket, by giving them a pre fixed amount of money and asking them to make maximum use out of it.It really is an eye opener for them when they see the money spend in realtion to the things that they have bought. Our childrens are born in the age of I Pads , hi tech cell phones , video games and many other gadgets but we as parents need to make them realize the importance of all that they have but at the same time they should not forget how hard their parents have worked to make sure they have access to these things.

A penny saved is a penny earned, how many times have we heard this…. and this is so true.

As soon as our children can learn to count we should start our small lessons in handling little money.We should help them understand how to spend money wisely this will help them take intelligent and well informed decisions in the future.

Saturday 31 May 2014

Parentune.com - Bone Health in Children

Osteoporosis, a disease which used to be associated with old age is affecting more and more children now. Utmost care for your child’s bone health should be given during his/her formative childhood years. This will go a long way to build a strong framework of bones benefiting the child in later years. If the dietary intake of calcium/vitamin D by children and adolescents is below the recommended levels of adequate intake, the children will be unable to develop their optimal bone mass, which can put them at the risk of osteoporosis.

What exactly is Osteoporosis?

Osteoporosis is sometimes referred as a paediatric disease with geriatric (old age) consequences. Osteoporosis is a condition where the density of the bones decreases resulting in brittle and fragile bones which make them prone to fractures. Your child’s bones mature gradually as they grow, with childhood and early adulthood being the prime periods for bone development. Whatever bone mass your child has attained in childhood and adolescence is a very important determinant for his/her lifelong skeletal health.

What are the main fallouts of undernourished bones?

It’s alarming to know about the increase in incidences of fractures in otherwise healthy children, reflects the unhealthy changes in lifestyle in the past few decades.

    Low bone density
    Brittle Bones/ Fractures
    Avoidance of dairy products/calcium deficiency leads to individual vertebrae becoming out of shape resulting in hunch back appearance.
    A distorted and damaged spine is painful, disabling and disfiguring.
    The distorted bones can compress other organs like the lung and abdomen leading to breathing problems.

How can we Boost Bone Health?

1. Calcium Rich Diet

Milk is rich in calcium and it is an easy way to get the required calcium your child would need. But for those of you whose child is not open to milk there are other sources of calcium too. Whatever the case it’s always better to understand from your paediatrician the recommended calcium intake for your child per day at various stages of his growth.

    Apart from milk, dairy products such as yoghurt and cheese are a great source of Calcium.
    Include plenty of Green Leafy vegetables, Fresh Green Peas, Broccoli, Beans and legumes  in the diet
    Tofu (The calcium content of tofu varies, depending on how it's processed so please check the nutrition label.)
    Replace soft drinks and colas with milk/dairy based smoothies/milkshakes as this will contribute to a significant amount of calcium intake.
    Almonds are a rich source of phosphorus , Calcium and vitamin –E contributing to strong bones and teeth. {20 – 25 almonds( approximately one ounce) contain as much calcium as ¼ cup of milk}
    Check for Calcium fortified breakfast cereals, fruit juices and soya milk.

2. Vitamin D – The Sunshine Vitamin

Sometime ago a popular children’s health drink TV commercial highlighted the importance of Vitamin D for better bone health in children. It sent out a message how Vitamin D is helpful for the absorption of the calcium in the milk you give your child. According to the latest research ,vitamin D deficiency can not only cause rickets (a disease that can lead to bone deformity and fractures), it can also keep a child from reaching her genetically programmed height and peak bone mass.

Sources

    Your child’s skin can make vitamin D from the ultra-violet light in sunlight. So exposure to sunlight even for a short while as ten minutes without applying sunscreen is useful.
    Dietary sources such as certain fatty fish and egg yolks have abundant Vitamin –D.
    Vitamin D fortified cereals and dairy products
    You could consult your paediatrician to prescribe necessary Vitamin D supplements if you are unsure about your child’s adequate intake of vitamin D.

3. Bone Building Physical Activities

Any kind of physical exercise is great for your child but the best ones for their bones are activities like walking, running, hiking, dancing, tennis, basketball and gymnastics. Children who tend to play outside will also have higher vitamin D levels. Any physical workout or activity for one hour everyday will not only help your child in keeping fit but will also help in strengthening his/her bones.

4. Discourage carbonated drinks

Studies have showed that regular/ excessive intake of carbonated drinks is directly associated with lower bone mineral density.We need to encourage our children to have soya milk / milk and juices fortified with calcium and vitamins.

Prevention of osteoporosis begins in childhood. A healthy lifestyle and nutritious diet can be vital in promoting your child’s healthy bone health. Proper care in your child’s bone health will reap him rich rewards of strong bones later in life.